How can I make the days my children leave or come back from a couple days with their father easier on them and me it always seems emotionally draining for all of us?
Dear Emotionally Drained,
I do not know what kind of situation your kids are transitioning between. However, there are some things that can make transition days go a little bit better. The easiest thing you can do is to establish a routine when they return. If you have an activity that you all especially like to do, be it go out for pizza, play a board game, play hide and seek, make pancakes, play music and dance, or whatever, do it without fail when they return. It can really help the kids if they have a "transition activity" that they look forward to, and know will happen each time they return to your house. Another thing that is really important is not to be too dramatic about them leaving or coming home. If you are acting like you are miserable without them or your life is empty when they are away, they will feel guilty about going, and it can be quite emotional. It is okay to tell them you love them and will miss them, but leave it without the drama. The best thing you can do for them is be supportive and act like you are completely okay about them leaving, even if it is tearing you up inside. It does get easier for everyone if you become supportive and throw in some great routines. Best of Luck! -dk